Hmmm, well I sat and asked myself this question today and thought and thought. Why and how do I feel like a woman? How am I appreciated and celebrated for being a woman?
Is it because I have boobs? Is it because I am a good person? Is it because I care for others? Is it because I am good at my job? Or is it because of what is between my legs and the types of undies I wear?
Well I know it is not because of my thoughts or mind and I know it is not because I am good at my job or good to others. I could be a complete bitch but as long as I have cleavage I will be talked to still. If my thong is hanging out then maybe someone will pay attention to me or bleach blonde hair and fake and bake. I am not ugly or disfigured or frumpy but I am normal. I wear jeans that fit, I have brown hair, I wear glasses, my tattoos are not tramp stamps and you most of the time cannot even see them because they are for me not someone else to oggle. I do not wear a ton of makeup, if at all and I don't wear 10 inch heels, I like my ballet flats thanks, I like to walk:) I have breasts yes but they are in my shirt where they should be and it is a privledge for others if I decide to share them with them not because I feel I have to to get noticed. I am not fake and I am not trying to prove anything to anyone. If you don't like me or how I look because I do not have my goods hanging out then so be it. I have self respect and do not need to give that up for anyone and won't. I have no problem wearing lingerie or those things but they are not for the world to see and that is saved for my husband only, I do not need attention like that from every guy around and don't want that, that is saved for me and my husband. He is the one that is supposed to make me feel good about my attractiveness and my sexuality is supposed to be for him and him only, why else would I have gotten married? I want to feel sexy for him and look the part for him not any dude walking down the road and I think this is where the problem lies today. Girls think their value is in how much attention they get from boys and that is just not correct. If you value yourself then that is all that matters, we women have nothing to prove to anyone but ourselves. Men should value us by our minds and goodness towards others not what is in our pants only. I am trying to teach my daughter who is 15 these things but it is hard in a world wear girls start getting bikini waxes and buying thongs in their early teens. It is very hard when people her age are posting on facebook about how sexy she is or how hot!!!! She is 15, she is not hot!!!!! She is still a young girl who is supposed to be growing into herself and learning about herself not molding herself into what others want, what men want today. It is sad that girls nowadays only think they are worth what men think and only worth what men want to see in their bodies not brain, they are worth so much more than that.
I would like everyone over the weekend to tell a girl or woman they know about how they value them as a person and not an object to stare at. Take the step to tell them why you value them and how they make a difference in your life. Tell them that you love them for them not for how they look:)
Is it because I have boobs? Is it because I am a good person? Is it because I care for others? Is it because I am good at my job? Or is it because of what is between my legs and the types of undies I wear?
Well I know it is not because of my thoughts or mind and I know it is not because I am good at my job or good to others. I could be a complete bitch but as long as I have cleavage I will be talked to still. If my thong is hanging out then maybe someone will pay attention to me or bleach blonde hair and fake and bake. I am not ugly or disfigured or frumpy but I am normal. I wear jeans that fit, I have brown hair, I wear glasses, my tattoos are not tramp stamps and you most of the time cannot even see them because they are for me not someone else to oggle. I do not wear a ton of makeup, if at all and I don't wear 10 inch heels, I like my ballet flats thanks, I like to walk:) I have breasts yes but they are in my shirt where they should be and it is a privledge for others if I decide to share them with them not because I feel I have to to get noticed. I am not fake and I am not trying to prove anything to anyone. If you don't like me or how I look because I do not have my goods hanging out then so be it. I have self respect and do not need to give that up for anyone and won't. I have no problem wearing lingerie or those things but they are not for the world to see and that is saved for my husband only, I do not need attention like that from every guy around and don't want that, that is saved for me and my husband. He is the one that is supposed to make me feel good about my attractiveness and my sexuality is supposed to be for him and him only, why else would I have gotten married? I want to feel sexy for him and look the part for him not any dude walking down the road and I think this is where the problem lies today. Girls think their value is in how much attention they get from boys and that is just not correct. If you value yourself then that is all that matters, we women have nothing to prove to anyone but ourselves. Men should value us by our minds and goodness towards others not what is in our pants only. I am trying to teach my daughter who is 15 these things but it is hard in a world wear girls start getting bikini waxes and buying thongs in their early teens. It is very hard when people her age are posting on facebook about how sexy she is or how hot!!!! She is 15, she is not hot!!!!! She is still a young girl who is supposed to be growing into herself and learning about herself not molding herself into what others want, what men want today. It is sad that girls nowadays only think they are worth what men think and only worth what men want to see in their bodies not brain, they are worth so much more than that.
I would like everyone over the weekend to tell a girl or woman they know about how they value them as a person and not an object to stare at. Take the step to tell them why you value them and how they make a difference in your life. Tell them that you love them for them not for how they look:)
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