Well here is some food for thought..................your kids learn from you!!! Yes, I am sorry to inform you but when you decided to have unprotected sex and to bear the responsibility of being parents that meant you signed up to be teachers as well and role models not someone who just provides food and shelter. Your job parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles etc...........................is to teach your kids to be decent, happy, proud, respectful, functioning members of society and to believe in themselves and others and to know their worth. Your job is to support and encourage them and to guide them from the mistakes you made yourself.
If you have a daughter teach her strength and that she can do and be anything she wants to be. Teach her and show her that her value is much more than her body and that showing it off in unhealthy ways does not give her the attention she actually wants. If you are a Dad protect her, show her how women should be treated, respect her and love her for being her own individual self!!! Teach her it is ok to just be herself. If you are a Mom teach her beauty from within, to stand up for herself, to work hard to meet her goals whatever they may be and how to love others including herself. Teach her to be strong and independent.
If you have a son teach him respect and how to treat women properly. Teach him that people are not objects for his own pleasure and that to get love you have to give it. If you are a Dad show your son how to treat a woman, be respectful of him and listen to him, support him and hear him. Teach him that a real man has feelings, cries and needs help sometimes. If you are a Mom, act like a Mom not some lady trying to be twenty years younger than you are, show him that beauty comes from inside and not the outside, be the person he comes to when he needs a hug or shoulder to cry on, and care about him and how he feels.
If you have a daugher or a son stop behavior that you see as destructive to them or others, tell them when things are not acceptable and explain why. Be the person that helps them and listens to their thoughts and feelings and struggles, make yourself open and available to them at all times. Teach them about sex, love and marriage, show them what it really is through your own marriage or relationship. If you have problems in your own relationship and do nothing about them then what do you think your kids are going to learn? They are going to think the behaviors and actions that happen in your home and your relationship are the norm and how things are supposed to be. Do not leave your porn or other adult things out for them to find, if you have them make sure your kids will never get a hold of them but also explain to them what these things are and why and when they are appropriate. Do not lie to your kids no matter what it is about and do not try to avoid things because it is really you that is uncomfortable about it. Address issues as they come up right away, do not put things off or ignore them. Be active in your kids life, know their friends, partake in their lives, what is important to them should be important to you. Promote socializing with others including the opposite sex through sports, music, arts etc. Be proud of their accomplishments and always find a good in a bad and always find an improvement in a good. Your kids have to learn how to win and lose, they also need to learn how to be humble and to work hard to reach their goals but they also need to know that they are capable of anything they put their minds and hearts to and should be proud and happy when they achieve their dreams and goals. Stand up for them, protect them but educate them too. Be someone they can talk to about anything and be the someone that will always listen to them and care about what they say even if you don't agree or have all of the answers. It is your job as parents to build your kids up and to believe in them and to encourage and promote their growth as good human beings. It is your job to teach them about risk and responsibility and to own up to their mistakes and to learn from them. It is your job to teach them values and morals and what is important in life. It is you job to teach them how to treat others and how they should be treated as well. It is your job to be parents and if you didn't want the job or its too hard or you are too selfish yourself then you should not have had kids. Video games, computers, tvs and cell phones should not be caregivers or teachers that is YOUR job!!!!
If you have a daughter teach her strength and that she can do and be anything she wants to be. Teach her and show her that her value is much more than her body and that showing it off in unhealthy ways does not give her the attention she actually wants. If you are a Dad protect her, show her how women should be treated, respect her and love her for being her own individual self!!! Teach her it is ok to just be herself. If you are a Mom teach her beauty from within, to stand up for herself, to work hard to meet her goals whatever they may be and how to love others including herself. Teach her to be strong and independent.
If you have a son teach him respect and how to treat women properly. Teach him that people are not objects for his own pleasure and that to get love you have to give it. If you are a Dad show your son how to treat a woman, be respectful of him and listen to him, support him and hear him. Teach him that a real man has feelings, cries and needs help sometimes. If you are a Mom, act like a Mom not some lady trying to be twenty years younger than you are, show him that beauty comes from inside and not the outside, be the person he comes to when he needs a hug or shoulder to cry on, and care about him and how he feels.
If you have a daugher or a son stop behavior that you see as destructive to them or others, tell them when things are not acceptable and explain why. Be the person that helps them and listens to their thoughts and feelings and struggles, make yourself open and available to them at all times. Teach them about sex, love and marriage, show them what it really is through your own marriage or relationship. If you have problems in your own relationship and do nothing about them then what do you think your kids are going to learn? They are going to think the behaviors and actions that happen in your home and your relationship are the norm and how things are supposed to be. Do not leave your porn or other adult things out for them to find, if you have them make sure your kids will never get a hold of them but also explain to them what these things are and why and when they are appropriate. Do not lie to your kids no matter what it is about and do not try to avoid things because it is really you that is uncomfortable about it. Address issues as they come up right away, do not put things off or ignore them. Be active in your kids life, know their friends, partake in their lives, what is important to them should be important to you. Promote socializing with others including the opposite sex through sports, music, arts etc. Be proud of their accomplishments and always find a good in a bad and always find an improvement in a good. Your kids have to learn how to win and lose, they also need to learn how to be humble and to work hard to reach their goals but they also need to know that they are capable of anything they put their minds and hearts to and should be proud and happy when they achieve their dreams and goals. Stand up for them, protect them but educate them too. Be someone they can talk to about anything and be the someone that will always listen to them and care about what they say even if you don't agree or have all of the answers. It is your job as parents to build your kids up and to believe in them and to encourage and promote their growth as good human beings. It is your job to teach them about risk and responsibility and to own up to their mistakes and to learn from them. It is your job to teach them values and morals and what is important in life. It is you job to teach them how to treat others and how they should be treated as well. It is your job to be parents and if you didn't want the job or its too hard or you are too selfish yourself then you should not have had kids. Video games, computers, tvs and cell phones should not be caregivers or teachers that is YOUR job!!!!
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